Hardships

I know I have a lot of guy friends but it IS very difficult to keep  that friendship. From personal experience I have had friends who think it would be a great idea to go out with me just because we get along well but that is not how it works guys. Back when I was in high school I thought that going out with a guy who was one of my best friends was a phenomenal idea and it was for a couple of months. Little by little we stopped being best friends and as time went by we stopped talking to each other. We went out for two years but after those two years we became complete strangers to one another but others believed we were happy. At the time I was afraid of braking up because I knew it would be the end of our friendship but once I thought about it I figured out we were not really friends anymore. Don't take me wrong, this might work for some people but just getting along with each other is not enough to maintain a relationship. Broettes are easy to get along because we understand guys to a certain level and we do not  cause as much drama. Having many guy friends is also not easy due to THEIR guy friends. Once they see that you are a girl that feels comfortable being surrounded with guys they think they have found a gold mine. On occasions there is some unwanted attention, other times I am seen as a new bff, but most of the time I become a psychologist or counselor and that is not fun. Yes, I am a girl and I understand the female brain but all girls are different, kind of, and there is no point on me resolving their problems. On a personal note, one of the things I do not like about being a broette is that my friends say a lot of bad-words in front of me. Those kind of bad-words guys are not supposed to say ind front of a lady which also make me worry on how they think of me. Broettes have some hardships for being who they are but it is not something we can't manage.

The Struggle is Real

My friends mean the world to me and I cherish a lot the few girl friends I have. I have never been able to befriend a girlfriend of any of my friends because they just do not like me and why is it that hey do not like me? Well, it is because my friends are always talking about me. Guys, that is the biggest mistake you can ever make in your life! Girls do not like it when you talk to them about other girls specially when you just started dating. I used to hang out a lot with my guy friends and play video games, watch movies, go to Starbucks or MoonBeans (because I love coffee) and chat about anything. As time went by, each one of my friends started dating and eventually they stopped talking to me, guess why? Yes, because of their girlfriends. I am happy for each of them but I have to admit it was hard for me at first because I  became lonelier by the second and I stopped doing all the things I usually did with them, it was a big change. I still had friends and everything but it just was not the same.
Some of you girls out there might have experienced this as well and guys are probably thinking of some broettes they have lost due to their girlfriends. But there is nothing to worry about. True friends are forever this is what I tell all my friends because I know that even if we stop talking for a while everything will be good between us. One more thing, guys if you want your broettes and girlfriends to get along let them meet first and see how they get along and if one of your best friends is a broette ALWAYS tell this to the people you date so that they do not get surprised after. Please be casual about it and do not blurt it out of no where because that will only make things worst.

Why can't we be friends?

Let's be honest for a second here. Many people think that a girl that is treated  as a bro by guys might be a lesbian, a bitch, a slut, or all of the above. The reason being she mostly hangs out with guys and gets along with them. I have always enjoyed the company of guys more than girls, why? Well guys are pretty funny, guys actually say what is in their minds, AND there is less drama. I have been only been called a bitch but for a completely different matter. Girls do not think I am any of this things because I hang out with girls as well and it seems that is acceptable. The reason why I don't have a lot of girl friends is because most of them do not hang out with me for the right reasons. In high school I was in ROTC and I had a few girl friends with whom I would eat lunch once in awhile but the only reasons why they wanted to eat with me was because:

1.They wanted information about “the cute guys” in ROTC.
2. They wanted to gossip about classmates.
3. They did not do their homework so they needed my help.

My closest friend who is a broette as well did not waste her time with other girls, I could handle all the gossip and drama but she hated that so other girls did not think kindly of her. When a girl is a broette it is a struggle to find another girl that can fully understand you. Also, girls can be cruel and I really do admire broettes who can completely ignore the comments other girls make. Whether it is from jealousy, envy, or anything else sometimes broettes have to deal with girls that do not understand why we hang out with guys or why guys like to hang out with us.

50 Shades of Broette

Broettes come in all different colors and shapes, for example I am one of those girls who is not that girly. I love to do other peoples make-up but I do not like make-up on myself, I love to look at fashion magazines but I love to wear band t-shirts and I wish I could wear pajamas all day every day, I am not romantic, I am childish, and somewhat shy. I believe I am in between of all the different types of broettes out there. My one and only girl best friend, Brenda, is more on the girly side. She loves to dress up, dye her hair, go shopping, do DIYs, wants to always be pampered by her husband, loves chocolates, and roses. I consider her a hopeless romantic but she is still a broette. We have a lot of friends in common and SURPRISE, SURPRISE, about 85 percent of those friends are guys. My good friend Lorena is the most bro-like girl  I have ever met. Lorena gets along with every guy she meets, the reason being she talks like a guy. Guys and Girls communicate differently. Guys are more direct and to the point while girls can talk about ANYTHING and say NOTHING. Also, when guys talk, they have a distinctive way of talking. There are things they say or talk about among other guys and it is as if they have their own language, well Lorena speaks that language. Of course there m ight be more girls like Lorena but all I can say is that every broette is different.

Broette

Broette is the female equivalent of a bro. A female friend that guys see as a bro. We all know at least one broette and in my case, I am one.  In this blog I would like to talk about my own experience as a broette, what it is like to be a broette, the advantages and disadvantages it comes with, and many other things. I will also interview other broettes I know to provide a different opinion and also different experiences as broettes. But first, I will introduce myself.

My name is Mirian Yaneth Gomez Vazquez, from the long name I bet you can tell I am Hispanic. I am 23 years old and the eldest of three kids. My mother and farther were blessed with three beautiful girls, and yes, my sisters are broettes as well. I do not consider myself a girly-girl because I have never been one. Growing up I was that girl that was always hanging out with guys and I felt entirely comfortable. Up until I choose to do my minor in dance I had to face the fact that I was going to have to learn how to do my make-up for performances and thanks to that I am pretty good when it comes to doing my make-up. I was going to have to learn anyway because I want to be a TV reporter and being honest, every female reporter that we see on TV wears make-up. I will like to talk more about myself but that will only ruin what is to come in this blog.